Heads Up, Newlyweds-to-be:
Don’t over-commit in your first year.
This fall Ashley and I have been busy. And coordinating two schedules is more difficult than it looks.
- Ashley works Monday-Thursday and Saturday.
- I work Monday-Friday.
- We co-lead a high school small group on Wednesday nights.
- We attend a married couples’ small group on Thursday nights.
- We go to church and have dinner with my family on Saturday nights.
- And we help lead the youth meeting at church on Sunday nights.
For a couple months, we were able to make it work. But as we were getting ready to go to the youth meeting last Sunday, Ashley was on the verge of tears. We hadn’t spent any real quality time together in days.
So we talked and decided we were spreading ourselves too thin—especially as we go through this season of transition. So we’ve re-evaluated our schedule, and we’ve decided that we can no longer help lead youth on Sunday nights.
Sundays are the only day of the week where we’re both off work, and we needed to protect that shared time together.
It wasn’t an easy decision to make. We like investing in the kids and interacting with the other leaders at church. And we felt like flakes quitting halfway through the semester. But a change had to happen, and it was the right change to make.
We kinda learned this lesson the hard way.
So, as you start your life out together, guard your time jealously. There are only so many hours in a week, and the time you spend together—even if it seems like you aren’t doing anything important—is very important.
I like to feel his eyes on me when I look away.
Every beautiful moment in my life has also been imperfect, and everything that has been painful has brought me to a better understanding of what beauty and truth truly are. This is the tension where we live, the halfway point. We’re skating on thin ice here.
Are we out of the woods yet are we out of the woods yet are we out of the woods yet are we out of the woods.
Are we in the clear yet are we in the clear yet are we in the clear yet in the clear yet GOOD.